Hello Ladies!!! Welcome to Week 12 of our Girl, Bye Mindset Makeover book study (you can order the book HERE). This week I tackled Pages 142-153. Again, there are so many sections that are great food for thought depending on your unique situation and there were several components that I journaled individually in my book because … YES!!! But for the purpose of covering ONE main idea per week with the group, I chose this one.
Our loved one’s decisions CAN affect our ability to be involved in their lives…. some times you’ll have to STEP AWAY when their life choices conflict with yours…. you two need to learn to exist parallel for a while without intersectionality. Sometimes letting go gracefully can be the best way to build some type of new relationship with the person they are becoming.
DISCLAIMER: I don’t think I’ve ever cut off anything GRACEFULLY which reminds of the Lifeway Bible Study series I attended: Unglued by Lysa TerKeurst. But, that is the ultimate goal. Gracefully…. but, anyway.
Unfortunately, I have a history of allowing myself to be used when needed then discarded, used when needed then discarded, used when needed then discarded, and it’s a real struggle because I sometimes allow that under some type of “unconditional love” umbrella. In hindsight, I can see it really made me an enabler and my loved ones knew that they could do whatever and I’d likely still show up to bail them out even if I ended up wounded in the process. So guess when I heard from them? You got it! When they hit rock bottom or needed something. And it’s happened over and over and over. You would think I would learn, but apparently not LOL.
What I really needed to learn years and years ago (and still today) is that it is OKAY to step away from other people’s lives UNTIL a new, healthy relationship is possible. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person or conditional or unloving, it means you are working to have HEALTHY relationships (and you don’t want to ENABLE them).
I love Miss Naja’s note that “letting go is something some people master, and others can never quite seem to get right” because I’m definitely in the second category but am getting better at it every day, week, month and especially this past year.
What was your take away of this week’s reading? Did you have a favorite part?
Coffee cheers your way. I’ll see ya next week.